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Optimal Impact ~ Your Best You

Newsletter from Janice Hurley
May 2014

Polished Hair Styles   

I once read that the average woman spends about 2.5 years' worth of time doing her hair and makeup. 
  I raise my hand in agreement and say it's at least that for me. This beautiful woman is a busy CFO and mother of 3 young children.  She knows the secret to making her long hair look attractive and polished even when it is just pulled back in a ponytail.  She adds a side part, uses product to keep the fly-aways at bay and wraps her own hair around the band holding the hair so no colored tie is showing.  Then she is sure to wear appropriate makeup that includes a flattering lip color along with striking earrings.  Good Job Lindsay - gorgeous!
In This Issue
Polished Hair Styles
What Do You See?
The Confidence Code
What Color Are You?
Say: "Thank You"
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What Do You See? 

When you look at this picture what do you see?
Do you see an old woman with a prominent nose or a young woman with a ribbon around her neck?  The goal is, of course, to see both.  Like every situation in life, there are two or more viewpoints to the same situation.  Throughout the day, we have the opportunity to really see others with whom we come into contact and to view the situation that you might be sharing together and see it from their point of view.  The most natural tendency is to see something in terms of how it is affecting you and to think about it from that viewpoint only.  It is fascinating to put our self-focus aside and try to truly feel what the other person is experiencing.  I find this makes life more interesting and I am less agitated with others in what might have been a stressful situation.     

The Confidence Code  

Women aren't close to holding their own professionally even though they hold more college and graduate degrees than men. Authors, Claire Shipman and Katty Kay, wanted to find out why women in America, who work so diligently, are still passed up by the men around them who get promoted faster and paid more. In their book, THE CONFIDENCE CODE, they uncover some fascinating statistics as to how we view ourselves.  For instance, it was found that men overestimate their abilities and performance while women underestimate both although their performances do not differ in quality.  Women applied for a promotion only when they believed they met 100 percent of the listed qualifications and men would apply when they met 60 percent.  Young girls lose confidence in competing in sports more easily than boys so they quit competing, therefore depriving themselves of one of the best ways to regain that confidence.  Not surprisingly, this fast paced and easy to read book, tells us what we've always known - that we are usually our own most limiting factor.  

What Color Are You?  

Here is a great examples of the differences in skin tone coloring.  My good friend, Bonnie Hixson, on the right has more blue to her skin tone whereas my skin tone is yellow and remains yellow whether I am tan or not tan.  The best colors to wear next to your skin are those colors that make your eyes look sparkly and your skin look alive.  You might be drawn to a color that doesn't look good on you but most of us know instinctively when something flatters (or doesn't flatter) when we wear it.  I can wear orange and lime green while Bonnie can rock strong jewel tones.  None of us look good in every color and it sure saves on the budget when we figure that out. 


Say:  "Thank You"   

It's seems simple enough that we would say "thank you" when someone gives us a compliment, doesn't it? But, the majority of us do not.  Instead, the most common response from a man is no response at all and a woman usually gives you a reason why you shouldn't have complimented her.  I was recently at a large dental conference where the woman, who was the lead moderator, looked stunning and I told her so. All of a sudden the upbeat festive conversation came to a dead stop as she grimaced and described why indeed she did not look as good as she liked.  It put a damper on the general energy in the group and it reminded me, once again, how hard we are on ourselves. So, lesson to be learned?  No matter what the compliment and no matter what your gender, the proper answer is, "thank you."  






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